the act of talking...

i am having a friend or gym mate which we have known each other for about one year plus.. she was introduced to me by another gym mate.. we are quite click because we are having the passion and interest in doing aerobic classes.. usually we (not only she and i, about 4-5 of us) will go dinner after weekend classes and we all even travel together before.. so we all can considered as regular friend.. (i don't address her as close friend because to me close friend is someone that i will share my secret with him/her...) and regular friend is >> someone that we meet often and we spend time together for laughing, gossip, finding nice eating places and so on...

as time goes by.. we have noticed that she really lack of the act of talking.. give u an examples.. when we are giving our idea and she always have something to say about our idea and she stand very firm for her own opinion, even for a very simple thing like - where to have dinner... of coz she can always give her own opinion but.. come on la!!!! can she just say it out in a more proper way, we know she doesn't really mean that but just... just... the way she talk is irritating!! and can really make us get angry sometime...

another example which just happened recently, one of our friend is going for island holiday soon, and guess what...?? she told the friend make sure she grab a life jacket once she get into the ferry... omg!! we all are laughing like mad behind her (ya! we are bad guys..) we know that her intention is good because of the ferry accident happened recently.. sure we all have to be more alert and careful when we are taking ferry.. but just that the way she say it is too serious, especially her face expression is really like giving us a lesson... haha!!

beside her, i do met some of the people who are having the same behavior.. of coz i know that some of them do not have any bad intention when they say it, just that they do not know how to deliver their message in a proper way where the listener can get what you are trying to say beside that also can feel that you are saying it from your heart..

so now, how can we improve our talking skill...?? to me, i will try to talk more with the person who i think he/she really have the good talking skill and try to learn some from them.. of coz the talking skill that i said here is not from those direct salesperson or insurance agent who are damn good in convince you..

it is not about what you talk... it is more about how to deliver your message in a proper way that the listener can feel and appreciate it..